Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Core Values

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately.. Mostly because I was asked by someone what my most important core values are... and was asked to choose 4.

I was perplexed and couldn't give an answer off the cuff... there's so much to say and so many but after much thought... I finally came up with those:

1. Honesty
2. Humanity
3. Self-evolution/knowledge
4. Modesty/Humbleness

Now .... Do we think of our core values when we choose a partner in life and whether it is essential that they share the same values? when we start a new job? make new friends? I don't want to dwell on "what if's?" but ... what if we did pay attention to them... would our lives have turned out this way? Would we have made different choices?

Not my usual post... just needed to vent. What are your four core values?


N. said...

Self evolution do you mean self development?

If I had to pick four core values, they would be:
1. Patience
2. Humility
3. Honesty
4. Wisdom

Wisdom doesn't count as much as a core value as it is an attribute. But for a person to be wise, means he has so much depth and sensibility. For example, to be accepting without being naive, to be understanding without being judgmental, to judge without blame, etc.

We probably do think of our values when doing something, however mostly in an indirect way.

kila ma6goog said...

موضوع مثير

و ذكي

نعم اتفق معك بأن الانسان يفضل ان يختار شريك حياة يشاركه في الايمان بنفس الأهداف و المباديء , لكن الحياة ليست بهذه السهولة

أذكر مرة واحد من الربع تزوج وحدة و كان واضح ان ماخذها عشان الفلوس , فلمن كان يقولنا شحقة تزوجها كان يقول

she likes the same music i like!



خو قول

i like to share her dads wealth!

عموما أعتقد بأن الحياة ليست سهلة و حتى لو الواحد يرتبط بشخص يتشارك معه بكل شيء ستظل الخلافات الزوجية موجودة و ستظهر مشاكل أخرى على السطح و ممكن بعض الناس يملون من هذا التماثل بينهم و بين شركائهم

السؤال الآخر , هل اسلوب زواجنا بالكويت يتيح فرصة كافية للتعرف فعلا على طبيعة الشخص الآخر؟

سؤال آخر , هل الناس يظلون على حالهم ؟ مو يمكن تكون حالة الشريك شي قبل الزواج و تتغير بعده؟

السؤال الثالث لو انك وجدت شريك يتشارك بصفتين مما تحب , هل تسوى العملية انك تغامر و تتزوجه على امل ان تزرع به بقية الصفات؟

أكرر الحياة ليست سهلة , خصوصا عند التعامل مع الأشخاص الآخرين

تدخل فيها كيميا و فيزيا و ميتافيزيقيا


sws said...

self development.... absolutely.. thanks N.

funny... Why is it that i'm the only one that really didn't think of my core values when making decisions... i sort of lived for the moment, on impulse.

Bu-Salma - dablat chabd. The right thing to say is to wait atleast 2 years to understand everything about your partner before getting married but i'm doubting that would even work.. I guess in the end its all a gamble.

kila ma6goog said...


و المغامرة جزء من متعة الحياة

ماكو شي مزمون

mercy said...

1. Childlike faith in GOD.
2. Honesty
3. Respect (for self AND others)
4. Humility
5. Love for Humanity

As for knowing someone 2 years before marriage? I doubt that theory. From experience, I do not believe in ''love'' matches for the sake of love. You need to get down to basics, and mutual respect is uppermost. Mutual values.

Love evolves from this. Spoken from a wise woman...

Nabil Wilf said...

I've thought about what are the ideal core values to have in a person and in a partner in light of the failing relationships in the world. Here are the values at which I've arrived:

1. Love for and obedience to God at the center of one's life
2. Detachment from all things save God
3. A desire to serve humanity
4. An attitude of self-improvement

يَا ابْنَ البَشَرِ
إِنْ تُحِبَّ نَفْسي فَأَعْرِضْ عَنْ نَفْسِكَ، وَإِنْ تُرِدْ رِضائِي فَأَغْمِضْ عَنْ رِضائِكَ، لِتَكُونَ فِيَّ فانِيًا وَأَكُونَ فِيْكَ باقِيًا.

يَا ابْنَ الوُجُودِ
حُبِّي حِصْني مَنْ دَخَلَ فِيهِ نَجا وَأَمِنَ وَمَنْ أَعْرَضَ غَوَى وَهَلَكَ.